Irresistible Ethiopian Love

I Have Always Been Attracted To African Americans Finally I’m Stepping Outside Of The Box I've Noticed How A Cultural Difference Between Two People Can Be Exciting, Intriguing and Enlightening!

There Is So Much I Want to Learn about My Abofa and I know It Will Take Time.

He teaches me a little day by day and I learn more about his culture as time goes by.  I know a couple of words in his language and it is very challenging for me.  I told him I will learn whatever he wants me to a lot faster, if he whispers it in my ear! :) His accent is so stimulating and super sexy it makes my eyes roll!

I’ve noticed the way he treats me, He makes me feel like his personal queen and does not want to share me!  He’s very respectful and always puts me first!  I really like how he prioritizes me and puts me before his "boys" and I don’t have to deal with that weird Bro-mance crap! Other than "cheating", Bromance is the ultimate relationship killer, in my book!

He's also very affectionate in public and when we go out with his friends, I don’t feel like I have to fight for his attention :)  His eyes are always zoomed in, focused and locked on me.  My sister always says “black is whack", and I need to date white men!  I don’t think that will be necessary at this time.  I am more than happy, although he is not African American; he is from the motherland and has his own distinct chocolate flavor!

 

Abofa likes to cook exotic dishes and lucky for me, I love Ethiopian food!  I remember when we first started dating, he hand fed me and we drank wine.  Not sure how you feel about that but I thought it was so romantic.  Not Patron or Ciroc, Red Wine!!! Trust me I'm not knocking it and I’m used to drinking Red Wine but most African American Men are not brining wine, red at that! They come through with a bottle of whatever is going to get you crunk! I guess for me, it’s about the little things that set you apart from the rest.

I'm still unsure on why "most" African American men give "us “African American Women such a hard time, when we always place them first...Just to get disrespected in return!  This is my first time dating outside my comfort zone and trust me..."I have never been more comfortable!" :) Like I said before it's almost been a year and Abofa has never made me cry, insecure or even jealous!  He uplifts me, my confidence, and my spirits. Never does he take them away or try to intentionally put me down!

I pay attention to every little detail he has to offer me, 

I’m so thankful to have my Irresistible Ethiopian Lover By My Side!

Still Getting Those Damn Butterflies!!!

“It’s Almost Been a Year and I Get

 Butterflies In My Stomach When I’m Around Him!”

Remember In My Other Story I was saying me and my Abofa haven’t been seeing much of each other lately!  I wanted to see him so bad all week and we did but I still really missed him... So last night he asked me what time I was going to be home, I said 8:30.  Automatically I’m thinking he will be there somewhat around that time…he texted and asked me what kind of drinks should he get and I should put something sexy on for him!  I’m thinking BET… he must have been reading my mind! lol I throw something sexy on primping and proceeded to set the mood !

I look at the time and its 9:30…WHAT? He’s not here yet? He then texts me and tells me he’s going to be here in 30mins…so I sent him a sad face that said 30mins??? :((

Wow, I couldn’t believe I was being so impatient, but at least I realized it! Lol I called up my home girl Kiya and she was telling me to chill and give him time.  He called me and told me he was on his way and I felt like I couldn’t wait any longer.  When he got there he was looking and smelling so good!!!

I was all over the place and couldn’t sit still, kinda like how your pet acts when you get home.  I wanted to to meow, scratch, and jump all over him.  He was finally here and all of a sudden I felt butterflies and my stomach starts to get very nauseous!  Really???  Was I a little nervous???  I think I defineltly was lol

I had to shake some of that nervosness off and started drinking faster and faster! It was one of those nights, blurry and some parts wasclear!  I do remember taking off my coat and showing him my sexy black lingerie. By that time those butteries had flew away!

Do You Get Butterflies When You Are With That Special Someone?

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BRANDON HINES...SO MUCH MORE THAN EYE CANDY!

 Sexy R&B Singer whose voice is so amazing...
it soothes every cell in my body!

I’ve never had a three some and if my man wanted to fulfill this  fantasy I would say…Brandon Hine’s Please!!! Lol I have a thing for this tall, dark and handsome brotha!

The first time I saw him was at the 2008 Essence Conference and he was sitting on the Love & Relationship’s panel.  I had No idea who he was but he definitely had a earful about me and my dis functional relationship at the time.  That day a couple of women stood up and asked the panel for advice and I had got the courage to ask as well! 

Pretty much I was in a 5 year relationship and it was going on 6.  I wasn’t getting what I wanted like quality time, romance, communication etc… My ex-fiancé was in the entertainment field and didn’t know how to juggle career and family.  We were fairly young and both had other things to focus on however we were in love and I was hurt just thinking about the thought of us breaking up.

Out of Nowhere I put my head down and started to have a meltdown in front of a large audience, cameras, the entire love panel and of course…Brandon Hines!!! SMH… i will never forget that day!  I heard an inner voice tell me to put my head up and before those tears could fall my head was back up.  I was standing tall with confidence!  I had collected my thoughts and proceeded to tell my failing love story. 

It wasn’t the best first impression but I’m sure it was memorable or just plain entertaining!  Later on that day Brandon Hines performed on stage.  He was very interesting to watch.   He was singing with so much passion, confidence and love, I realized I had a new favorite R&B artist.  I went home and looked up more of Bhines music. 

Before I knew it, I became very familiar with his songs and actually listened to his powerful messages.  Bhines music made a lot of since to me and gave me insights to making better decisions for myself and my relationship.  “Afraid of the Break up, Breaking walls, Lost, Here I Am, Long Way Home and I Don’t Wanna” definitely touched my heart and hit a home run for me!

I would say bhines music is for lover's, romance, baby making or just people that have experience with real relationships! Another thing I like about BHines he doesnt have a lot of fast songs which makes his music great for a long day with something slow and spicy! No dout he's a five star artist*****

In Love With Two Men...What To Do?

Most Would Brag About Being In Love With 2 People

But For Me...It Was A Damn Nightmare!!!

I remember the look on Abofa's face when he found out about my NC lover.  He looked through my phone and read all of the text in our thread.  He also seen all the steamy pictures we had been sending to one another.

I was angry, furious, and felt violated!  How could he?  Who does he think he is?  Our relationship was so new, plus I was honest to him when we first started dating and I told him about my NC Lover that I have been seeing for a couple of years.  He really didn’t put much concern into it and now all of a sudden he's acting so surprised to see us communicating.

Abofa asked me if I cared about my NC Lover and I replied yes but actually I was madly in love with him.  At this time I wasn’t completely sure about my feelings with Abofa...We had only been dating for a couple of months and I knew my NC lover for a couple of years now.

It has been a while since the last time I spoke to my NC Lover.  Our last conversation didn’t go so well.  He calls me while he was drunk, cussing and fussing at me.  I don’t know why he was mad that I had fell in love with someone else.  Before I met my Abofa, I gave him so many opportunities to tell me how he felt about me, about us.  

 He would tell me he loved and missed me but would never elaborate on if we would move our relationship forward.  I could always tell my NC Lover was holding back his feelings but that never stopped me from expressing my love to him.  I always told him he would make a great husband.  He cooks, cleans, works, owns multiple properties, takes care of his family and most of all he was attractive had a body like Spartan and very romantic! 

So, how do you decide when you have two good qualities, sexy men in your life?  That was the question that had me so mind boggled.  I thought about this for months and it was driving me crazy!  My Abofa was giving me everything I wanted, needed, and was in the same state (that’s a major plus for me because Im not attracted to the men in DMV area!)

I haven’t seen my NC lover in about a year and I was missing him like crazy.  He was trying to make plans for me to visit him but I decided not to go because I didn’t want to put myself in a situation and plus I was still confused about where we stood.

Finally, I thought It was best to hold off and let my life run its course.  I’m glad I did, because I can put my focus on a new and fresh relationship. A True love that took me 30 years to find!  My Abofa has opened my eyes to a love I never had before.   I gave my NC Lover a chance to show and tell me what his love was all about and all I got was a tough exterior and tough love.  

I’ve been through so much in my life and unfortunately for my NC lover I wasn’t looking for more.  As the days go on I decided to put my NC Lover to the test and ask him more questions about us.  It turns out he has no real plans about us, present or future.  He did say he was going to help me move closer and if the relationship didn’t work out at least I would be closer to my family in Georgia. 

 I was ok with that before I met my Abofa, plus It was quite clear he didn’t believe in us, so why should I?Leave my Abofa, move to Georgia and still be alone?   I don’t think so!!!  Abofa didn’t really talk about plans for us either but we didn’t have the history like my NC lover and I had.  Abofa has what I need, that Is LOVE, PURE, GENUINE, AND ITS FLOWING OUT FREELY! J   I will take Love over history and a weekend rendezvous any day. 

Even though it took me a couple of months to realize who was best for me, now I can allow myself to accept my blessings and not have a guilty conscious about where my heart lays.   It comes down to this... HISTORY = HIS-STORY…HE HAD NONE!!! HIS-HEART…HE HAD NONE!!! So I choose to do no wrong and BE GONE!!!   I chose Heart over History…Love will always win!!!

Dragged Out To The Club and Was Shot By Cupid

I Wasn't  Searching For Love...

It Found Me When I Least Expected It!!!

Dear Diary,  I Think I Found True Love! I call him Abofa and he is from Ethiopia.  He is so different from the men or should I say boys from my past! He makes me feel like a queen all the time and he is so romantic.  Last night he surprised me and came over.  He held me tight and didn’t let go!

He kissed me on my forehead and smiled every time I looked his way.  Yesterday we texted each other like crazy. I told him that i never had a love like this before; nobody has ever given me the attention and affection like he does.  I'm 30 years old and feel like I’m finally experiencing love.  In one of the text I asked him where he has been all my life, he replied waiting for you. 

We have cam a long way since April 18th, 2012 the first time we met.  It was a instant attraction mentally, physically, emotionally, and of course sexually.  It was at a night club full of people and he grabbed my hand out of nowhere..."normally I would snatch my hand back and give a stare that could kill" but I felt a soft and gentle touch and he was tall, dark, and handsome :) " So I kept going back for more lol

I didn’t dance with anyone else that night just him.  I remember stoking his head and gazing in his eyes...that has never happened to me before, even when I think someone is attractive I'm still very cautious but for some reason this man had my full attention. I was so engaged and so was he.  It was to the point my sister came to look for me and we know most of the time ladies should never split up in the club.

At the end of that night we saw each other as we were leaving out and once again we couldn’t keep away from each other. I was cuddled up in his arms like it was a stormy blizzard outside, but the weather was perfect lol Could It be I was falling for the perfect stranger or did I have too many cocktails that night!

To move forward our first date was perfect...The establishment wasn’t...nasty drinks and bad hookah lol
 But who cares we had lovely conversation and he was a gentleman. Come to find out I wasn’t that drunk the night I met him.  He still was tall, dark, and handsome with a beautiful smile.  That night we ended up standing outside the lounge after it closed and I found myself in his arms all over again....FOR HOURS lol

Things started taking off after that day. At first I thought the relationship was moving really quickly but no matter what I said and did he kept coming back to me!   I now understand him better; he needs and wants love, just like me.  I’ve been hurt so many times and I’m a lot older.  He is younger and doesn’t talk much about his past relationships.  I went from running away to running into his arms and I’m thankful he keeps them open for me.

He is truly one of the best things that have happened in my life.  Yesterday I couldn’t stop thinking about him.  All day he tells me that he loves me and always talks about when we first met and fell in love.  I think he is from another planet because most men these days try to play so hard but he is soft, gentle, sweet, and sensitive.  He does have a hard side and trust me; it's hard where it counts :)

Its 11:39 and I think he is sleep because he would have called or texted by now.  He used to call me every night but I wouldn’t answer because I didn’t have much time for him.  I’m not sure why!  Most of the time I was busy doing stuff around the house, stuck in a runt depressed or just plain running away from his love.  Now I make him a priority because he deserves a good woman and I can be a great woman for him.

In most relationships there is always one person putting in more work and he was the one putting his best foot forward.  Now it’s my turn to show and prove to him what a wonderful lover I can be and meet him halfway!  I used to be that person putting in 100% just to get back nothing in return, so I know how it feels! :(

I’ve been waiting for GOD to send me a man whom I can be myself with and no holding back this time...
I hope he notices the change because I can feel it and see a major difference in me!  He is very easy to love and doesn’t expect much.  He gives me everything I need and leaves no room for other men.  I have no needs, wants, or desires....He fills me up with it all!  The funny thing is he stares at me before he goes to sleep and I stare at him when he is asleep lol that is love because my ex used to stare at the TV before he went to sleep! 

Right now TOM is here... (Time of the month) and we haven’t been intimate in over 2 weeks going on 3.  I went on vacation and he went out of town when I got back.   Now I’m on my period and we have this electric energy flowing through our bodies and it’s radiating some serious heat.   When we do reunite physically it’s going to be like our own fire work show lasting through the whole night...I can’t stop thinking about those sexy eyes he gives me when I’m on top or when his body is on auto pilot...it’s like he's penetrating not only my body but my mind and spirit as well!

I think he is the best lover I’ve ever had because he is so much more than a prop in the bedroom...he is a artist going to work and he knows how to carve my sculpture in fine details if you know what I mean.
Well it seems like I can go all night writing about my " ABOFA" that means" a breath of fresh air "!  He thinks he is the luckiest guy to have me but the truth is we are both blessed to have each other. 

My heart always skips a beat from all the sweet things he tells me!  This morning he told me he loves me 6 times and later today he sent me 135 kissing face icons to my phone...Is this real because I don’t want to go back to heartache and pain! I want to experience this for a lifetime!

Yours Truely,
Lexi Carmel
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